Communication II......

Again, another incident which lead me to think about communication. Just met a friend and passed her something. She got off work late, at 9pm, rushed to my place around 9.50pm, and rushing back home to go through the papers to send out her next resume.

Well, I could understand her work being hectic, being bossed around by her 'seniors', the 'messy' working environment, etc... but the thing is her inability to separate her WORKLIFE and LIFE.

Imagine meeting your friend and her face is so tight, so stressed, so black. As usual, I approach with a smile (no matter whatever bad things that may have happen to me earlier, be it a bad headache, quarrel with someone, or even someone close had went away), and the feedback was a stone-cold face. What can I do? She just stood there, catching a few breath for the extra road she walked due to my inability to communicate with her. "...further down the road and jaywalk", to me, is going forward along with the traffic flow and crossing the road without traffic light, but to her, she walked backwards against the traffic and used the traffic light. Is it really my communication being not direct, as she claimed, or different people having different sets of values which results in different outcomes? Further up the road? Further down the road?

She's changing her going home plan, ask me where's the bus stop, then heading off towards the bus stop, face as straight as before. All this while, it's such an odd position for me. Is she a friend or foe? I thought that if as friends(or even familiar faces), at least you would give me a nod or smile back to acknowledge my existance. No reaction, no nothing, just a straight face for that 5 minutes or so.

Crossed the road towards the bus stop. Finally a burst of laughter from her, saying she want to blow up already. Well, that laughter was good, did break the 'tension' I have since meeting her, but it was shortlived. Supposedly to be waiting for this service where she'll go another place to change another bus, but came another service and she asked me where it heads. I usually take it the opposite direction home from Orchard, so I just said Orchard. And she ask for time, I said about thirty minutes, which I guessed she heard as twenty minutes. Up onto the bus she went. As she waved me goodbye, I was thinking "Wouldn't it take even longer if she have to travel to Orchard and change another bus else?" But it's well too late, the bus has gone off.

I thought she might have 'activated' her dad to pick her up at Orchard, so I thought it will be easier at Novena, and sms her she could actually alight at Novena. But apparently that's not the case. She's taking the bus to PS and changing to another service. I wouldn't want to imagine the traffic at Orchard.

MORE HASTE, LESS SPEED.

She called back a while later, saying the bus is moving out of Bishan, further away from her home. By then, she has already kind of instilled some kind of 'blame' on me already. She wasn't expecting the "Recruits" she got from me to be so thin(more 'blame')... I told her just to get off the bus and take the cab home, of which I'll refurbish her. That's the least I could do already to get her home earlier, but was turned down flatly. She says she's tired, didn't want to talk more. She did 'thank' me for the papers and a little bit of snack I added, but all the 'blame' has shadowed it.

Generally, she's a very good girl. I can get along with her very well when she's not tied up on time. But when she's in a rush, she would be lost in her own world where she'll concentrate too much on herself, and forgot about those around her...... and most of the time, she's in a rush. Wasted, in a way..........

By right I would have wanted to write about the dream I had yesterday morning which I dreamt I died(!!!). But tired liao....... and my mood........ well...... lost........ that's all for now.